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LEARN THE WAYS    TO MAINTAIN

      YOUR HOPE

This article is dedicated to those faithful caregivers who, by no fault of their own, are stuck in a seemingly, hopeless medical ordeal.  It is about hope – hope for the caregiver and hope for the patient.  Sickness can have an oppressive effect on those most closely involved.  If a caregiver’s

hope is now missing or slipping then the issue becomes restoring hope.  Hope can be restored. 

Hope is the result of positive thinking.  Hope is like love, it invigorates and uplifts.  Hope is

necessary and healthy for both the caregiver and the recipient of the care.

Hope Is Valuable In the Healing Process – Hope is like faith. It provides strength in a moment of weakness and determination when faced with difficult odds. Hope has been a continual reinforcement for my life. Hope has provided peace when it was most needed.  Wikipedia, in discussing how valuable hope is in the healing process, says this about hope:

 

Hope has the ability to help people heal faster and easier.  Individuals who maintain hope, especially when battling illness, significantly enhance their chances of recovery.” 

 

This is important because numerous people with chronicphysical, or mental illness believe that their condition is stable and that they have little chance of recovery. If health care providers begin to recognize the importance of hope in the recovery process, they can learn to instill hope within their patients.  This would enable patients to develop healthy coping strategies and therefore improve their physical and emotional well being.

 

A Greater Sense of Well Being - Shaping people’s beliefs and expectations to be more hopeful and optimistic is an essential component of positive psychology. In general, people who possess hope and think optimistically have a greater sense of well being in addition to the improved health outcomes outlined above. Positive psychologists teach strategies to help boost people’s hope and optimism, which would benefit individuals coping with illness by improving their life satisfaction and recovery process.

Believe the Patient Will Do Better – So often the disappointing prognosis of a physician wipes away belief that things could get better.  There are enough recorded instances where, against all odds, a patient recovers from impossible odds.  In other cases, although there is an inevitable end to the sickness, life has been extended and health regained.  Our loved ones will sense our hope by the way we speak and continue the relationship.  We must believe, in order for them to believe.  For many, prayer will provide strength.  For others just believing may be enough.  In any event, there is simply too much history proclaiming the wonderful news that lives have been miraculously prolonged and joy has been provided to anxious loved ones.  Who is to say that this could not happen in your caregiving.  I promise you that maintaining your hope can increase the chances of prolonged health for both of you.

Be Uplifting To Others – This is a tough principle.  Difficult as it might be, lifting others when you don’t feel uplifted yourself is not easy.  It can even feel a little hypocritical, but at times it can be tougher.  Complicating the issue is the fact that 56% of the reported caregivers in the NAC/AARP study simply are feeling less love for the recipient of the care and that makes adopting an uplifting attitude all the more difficult. We all want good things to happen.  We even want to be the cause, if that were possible.  It really is possible with a good attitude, and an uplifting personality. We can change the attitudes and inclination of those around us by the utilization of the principle of hope.  A uplifting attitude is a hopeful attitude.

 

Hope Is a Feeling That Something Good Will Happen - I found the following lines during my research, but failed to record the reference.  Hopefully, should the author read these lines, I can be forgiven:

 

"The simple feeling of hope is the feeling of wanting something to happen and thinking that it could happen. Hope is a feeling that something good will happen or be true.  Hope is believing that someone or something may be able to provide help.  Hope is someone or something that gives you a reason for hoping."

Expect Good Things To Happen – It is difficult to believe that good things are going to happen when bad things keep occurring.  That is all the more reason to have hope and believe good things will happen.  Good things just might happen, and even if they don’t, believing good things could happen just might get one through the difficult times. 

 

After her own challenging experiences, Goldei wrote the following:

“If you say or even think you can't do something, then you won't.  It's that simple. And this is the

saddest truth there is in the process of being successful. There are so many hurdles you will face in your journey to wherever it is that you're going, there's no getting around it. There will be plenty of circumstances and people and limits that you will face insisting that you can't. NO matter how positive, how motivated or how successful you become, there will always be obstacles in your way, it's just a natural part in the process. However, the biggest obstacle you will likely face is yourself. I can pretty much guarantee the only thing standing between you and your most outlandish dreams and goals is the limits you place on yourself. You can accomplish almost anything you can dream of with the right tools and motivation. But you will not accomplish even your most ordinary goals if you say you can't. You will never know how hard, or how easy something really is until you actually try with all your might if you never even give it a chance. "Can't" is the ultimate serial killer of Chance. You might not even be aware that you are you're own worst enemy, and how much you are limiting yourself simply by your own conviction that you can't. …..You CAN do it”. 

Final Thoughts - Hope is lifesaving. Certainly those who are discouraged need someone.  If that someone who needs hope is you, take the steps found in this article to regenerate your own hope!  If it is your loved one patient who needs hope, determine that you will be someone who will help raise the uplifting feeling of hope for him or her. It just might be that the greatest human feelings are those attached with helping make another person's life better.