You do not have to believe that you have no control over your life or what happens in it. You actually have the power to change your own life for the better by using your natural emotional and physical abilities. Below are 10 steps for caregivers to utilize in your efforts to rise up and take your lives back:


1. Determine What Is Causing You To Feel Trapped

Many people spend lots of worry on a daily basis about their financial situation. But, that is nothing compared to the comprehensive feeling of being trapped, unable to chart one’s own destiny. But still it must be asked - Do I need this, or do I want it? Will it bring happiness into my life? And more importantly, will it bring happiness into my loved one’s life?


2. Be Aware Of Your Abilities to Take Charge of Your Life

Many people blame others and the world around them for the bad things in their lives, but the truth is they have full control of their lives. Only you can change the things in your life that you are unhappy about. You are in control of your life, and you hold all of the power. Seize this power and make choices that will free you and bring happiness into your life.


3. Identify Aspects of Your Job That Make You Unhappy

Ask yourself what could improve my service to my loved one? What results am I looking for? What else should I be doing?  Am I feeling trapped because I don’t communicate with others?  Are there one or two things that I must do that I detest?  If so, how can I change?


4. Realize That Your Life Responds To You

Your outlook determines the way you see the world, so make sure you’re looking at a positive view of the world, particularly your caregiving environment. Your mind has the power to make you see your service negatively, or it has the power to inject positivity into every day of your service. Start to think more positive thoughts and you will notice both yours and your patient’s life changing and improving.


5. Start To Live A Healthy Life.  You Can Choose It

For many people, being healthy is a big part of their happiness. Respect your body and drink lots of water, eat fruit and vegetables, exercise and get a good night’s sleep. All of these things will help you to feel happier and more pro-active, better able to manage the affairs of your patient.

6. Do What You Do Best – and Love It

What do you like to do and what do you do best. You know yourself better than anyone else, so you know what direction your life should be following. Take sufficient time to do it. Listen to your heart and spend any extra time doing things that bring you joy.


7. Be Honest and Learn To Say No

A big part of having self-respect is being able to say no to others. While it is a great feeling to help others out, it is important you are not being a push over. Say yes when you genuinely want to help, but don’t put your own life on hold. Don’t be held captive by the things others want you to do. Although you made a commitment, remember – you are in charge – or should be.


8. You Don’t Have To Rely on Old Standards

Many people live their lives following standards in which they don’t believe, but they do it anyway. If you want to be really free, take command of your life by doing whatever good makes you happy, rather than feeling sorry for yourself. Caregiving can provide joy. You make the choice.


9. Do What Makes You Happy

Happiness is, in fact, all that it is cracked up to be.  It would be nearly impossible to enjoy happiness while feeling trapped because of your caregiving responsibilities. If you want to do something that you think will make you happy, do it – don’t let fear of failure put you off. Fear can be another type of prison. It stops you from finding happiness, so take a chance.

10. Constantly Evaluate If It Is Working

Someone wise once said “When performance is measured, performance improves.”  It really does.  If the feeling of being trapped continues to persist, evaluate what you are doing and take the actions the evaluation calls for. Make certain you are sticking to the action steps you adopted. Work at being positive. Work at being in charge. (24)