10 GOOD WAYS TO TAME YOUR TEMPER
Because of caregivers’ love and respect for their patients, their anger appears to be passive in nearly every instance. From a clinical standpoint, there is something satisfying in that. Hopefully, this type of anger can continue to be contained and eventually managed. Life can be wonderful. Not every day is wonderful, but many can be. Letting the attitude of anger be a living force can destroy not only the day, but also a life. Anger is a destructive force. Anger, unchecked, can be dangerous to self and to others. I have chosen to not be angry. I am making progress. Anyone can do it, but it does require a considerable amount of concentration and work.
Establishing positive rules that you intend to live with will help rid you of angry feelings and help establish serenity in your life. For example, consider the following 10 Tips To Tame Your Temper produced by the Mayo Clinic Staff:
1. Think Before You Speak - In the heat of the moment, it's easy to say something you'll later regret. Take a few moments to collect your thoughts before saying anything — and allow others involved in the situation to do the same.
2. Once You're Calm, Express Your Anger - As soon as you're thinking clearly, express your frustration in an assertive but non-confrontational way. State your concerns and needs clearly and directly, without hurting others or trying to control them.
3. Get Some Exercise - Physical activity can help reduce stress that can cause you to become angry. If you feel your anger escalating, go for a brisk walk or run, or spend some time doing other enjoyable physical activities.
4. Take a Timeout - Timeouts aren't just for kids. Give yourself short breaks during times of the day that tend to be stressful. A few moments of quiet time might help you feel better prepared to handle what's ahead without getting irritated or angry.
5. Identify Possible Solutions - Instead of focusing on what made you mad, work on resolving the issue at hand. Remind yourself that anger won't fix anything and might only make it worse.
6. Stick with 'I' Statements - To avoid criticizing or placing blame — which might only increase tension — use "I" statements to describe the problem. Be respectful and specific.
7. Don't Hold a Grudge - Forgiveness is a powerful tool. If you allow anger and other negative feelings to crowd out positive feelings, you might find yourself swallowed up by your own bitterness or sense of injustice. But if you can forgive someone who angered you, you might both learn from the situation. It's unrealistic to expect everyone to behave exactly as you want at all times.
8. Use Humor to Release Tension - Lightening up can help diffuse tension. Use humor to help you face what's making you angry, and possibly any unrealistic expectations you have for how things should go. Avoid sarcasm, though - it can hurt feelings and make things worse.
9. Practice Relaxation Skills - When your temper flares, put relaxation skills to work. Practice deep breathing exercises, imagine a relaxing scene, or repeat a calming word or phrase, such as, "Take it easy." You might also listen to music, write in a journal or do a few yoga poses — whatever it takes to encourage relaxation.
10. Consider Seeking Help - Consider assistance from others for anger issues if your anger seems out of control, causes you to do things you regret or hurts those around you. (8)